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some day we’ll walk in the rays of a beautiful sun.

Albuquerque’s first murder this year may be a hate crime:

Friends are mourning the death of Albuquerque’s first murder victim, and fear the murder may have been a hate crime.
Patrick “Patricia” Murphy, a drag queen well known in the community, was a regular performer at Sidewinders Bar.

Murphy was shot to death in her home by someone she knew – Dana Madsen, a 33-year-old man who admitted to shooting Muprhy, is claiming self-defense. Murphy’s friends, however, are expressing concern that Madsen may have committed the murder due to discomfort with his own sexuality.

Sigh.

I have never really understood the argument that right-wingers and social conservatives offer about queer people, which is that we somehow infect the rest of the normal world with our perversity and sickness. Some of the (unsubstantiated) claims I’ve heard:

  • Gay marriage is destructive to straight marriage.
  • Gay people recruit children to join the ranks of our unofficial homo army.
  • All pedophiles are gay.
  • All gays are pedophiles.
  • Gay people seek to undermine the foundations of all normal culture.

Of course, most people who make these claims don’t distinguish between gay men, lesbians, transpeople, drag performers, and other sexual “deviants,” so the word “gay” can be fairly extended in these generalizations to the other groups I mention here.

It strikes me today that Patricia Murphy likely wanted to just hang out with her friends, have some fun during performances, and find a meaningful relationship, like most other people. Of course I didn’t know her, but until evidence comes out to refute this, I’m going to operate under the assumption that she was not seeking to destroy any marriages, recruit or molest any children, or do anything about the greater culture of our nation.

Based on the limited information I have about Albuquerque (half of which comes from Wikipedia and the other half of which comes from a friend who once visited the city on a business trip), it’s an economically depressed city with a median annual income of around $46,000 for a family. As my friend said, “It’s not a happy place at all.” Patricia Murphy, as a resident of the city, was probably just trying to keep on keeping on as best she could. She’s the one who was killed. Not the one doing the killing.

Yet, in some circles, she would be called the corrupt one.

14 thoughts on “some day we’ll walk in the rays of a beautiful sun.”

  1. Thank you for your kind words about my cousin Patrica. Pat was very loving and helped most of the family raise our kids. He was 5 ft 3 and weighed all of 90 pounds. Pat’s dad is heartbroken. There were over 300 people at the funeral and there are three more memorials to take place. The final being on the Acoma (Sky City Pueblo) This guy was 5’9 and outweighed Pat by so much that it wasn’t even funny. He didn’t have to kill him. It was a senseless death. I now have all of Pats personal effects and I still cannot beleive that she/He is gone.
    He had only been seeing this person for a little while.

    Thank you again for your outrage, it is appreciated until enough people are outraged this ype of thing will continue to happen.

  2. Thank you for your kind words about my cousin Patrica. Pat was very loving and helped most of the family raise our kids. He was 5 ft 3 and weighed all of 90 pounds. Pat’s dad is heartbroken. There were over 300 people at the funeral and there are three more memorials to take place. The final being on the Acoma (Sky City Pueblo) This guy was 5’9 and outweighed Pat by so much that it wasn’t even funny. He didn’t have to kill him. It was a senseless death. I now have all of Pats personal effects and I still cannot beleive that she/He is gone.
    He had only been seeing this person for a little while.

    Thank you again for your outrage, it is appreciated until enough people are outraged this ype of thing will continue to happen.

  3. Ms. Peculiar,
    Thank you so much for leaving a comment here. I can’t express well enough in words how truly horrified and saddened I am. I hope you and the rest of your family will find peace sometime soon.

    You remain in my thoughts.

    Rachel

  4. Ms. Peculiar,
    Thank you so much for leaving a comment here. I can’t express well enough in words how truly horrified and saddened I am. I hope you and the rest of your family will find peace sometime soon.

    You remain in my thoughts.

    Rachel

  5. I am angered and saddened at the same time that stupid things like this have to happen. What is it about fear that causes us to hurt – murder others? And what are these people afraid of?

    I hate hearing about things like this. I really do.

  6. I am angered and saddened at the same time that stupid things like this have to happen. What is it about fear that causes us to hurt – murder others? And what are these people afraid of?

    I hate hearing about things like this. I really do.

  7. Hi, I saw your comment about Patricia Murphy, being re-directed from some looking I was doing into the Lawrence King murder in Oxnard, CA last week. I hadn’t heard of Patricia’s death before even though I live in CO a few hundred miles down the road from ABQ. All these terrible incidents and there seems to be no decrease in their frequency. Human savagery.

    I’ve been to the “Duke City” various times but never lived there. I have a good friend who has, and he’s down there right now. I’m going to ask him when he gets back about the clime there and if people heard much about Patricia. I never thought that city was especially economically-depressed. I’m sure there are poor sections, and discrimination, too; it is a part of the U.S., after all. New Mexico did enact an inclusive ENDA law, though, unlike 35 or more other states.

    I follow these hate crimes because I am transgender myself. A good friend was murdered in Iowa a couple of years ago and I’m quite certain it’s because she was transsexual. It’s likely that her trans history is also the reason that the authorities didn’t delve into the crime very deeply.

    I don’t fully understand how people think that our society is so perfect that nothing needs to be changed. Seems to me we humans used to live in caves or foraging bands and over the course of millenia have arrived (evolved) at our present state of civilization. It didn’t happen by chance, it was the result of work by many people. And yet you hear people referring to GLBT hate crimes by saying things like “it’s always been this way, and always will be.” Some might even be bold enough to say “always should be.” Well, I think those people should be sent back to the caves.

    A lot of people don’t have any concern for anyone much outside their immediate family. I’ve seen this trend since Reagan first got elected, and it’s infected many over the past 25 years. Some elements of the Republican Party once upon a time were somewhat community-minded, some had a sense of noblesse olbige. That’s mostly history now and they all subscribe to the theory that “the only true interest is self-interest.” Add on to that the religious fundamentalists who indoctrinate their kids with fear and hate from an early age, and welcome to the 1890s (with the modern technological conveniences, of course).

    Anyway…the Pine Barrens?! I love the sound of that, spooky! But I bet there are birds there…

  8. Hi, I saw your comment about Patricia Murphy, being re-directed from some looking I was doing into the Lawrence King murder in Oxnard, CA last week. I hadn’t heard of Patricia’s death before even though I live in CO a few hundred miles down the road from ABQ. All these terrible incidents and there seems to be no decrease in their frequency. Human savagery.

    I’ve been to the “Duke City” various times but never lived there. I have a good friend who has, and he’s down there right now. I’m going to ask him when he gets back about the clime there and if people heard much about Patricia. I never thought that city was especially economically-depressed. I’m sure there are poor sections, and discrimination, too; it is a part of the U.S., after all. New Mexico did enact an inclusive ENDA law, though, unlike 35 or more other states.

    I follow these hate crimes because I am transgender myself. A good friend was murdered in Iowa a couple of years ago and I’m quite certain it’s because she was transsexual. It’s likely that her trans history is also the reason that the authorities didn’t delve into the crime very deeply.

    I don’t fully understand how people think that our society is so perfect that nothing needs to be changed. Seems to me we humans used to live in caves or foraging bands and over the course of millenia have arrived (evolved) at our present state of civilization. It didn’t happen by chance, it was the result of work by many people. And yet you hear people referring to GLBT hate crimes by saying things like “it’s always been this way, and always will be.” Some might even be bold enough to say “always should be.” Well, I think those people should be sent back to the caves.

    A lot of people don’t have any concern for anyone much outside their immediate family. I’ve seen this trend since Reagan first got elected, and it’s infected many over the past 25 years. Some elements of the Republican Party once upon a time were somewhat community-minded, some had a sense of noblesse olbige. That’s mostly history now and they all subscribe to the theory that “the only true interest is self-interest.” Add on to that the religious fundamentalists who indoctrinate their kids with fear and hate from an early age, and welcome to the 1890s (with the modern technological conveniences, of course).

    Anyway…the Pine Barrens?! I love the sound of that, spooky! But I bet there are birds there…

  9. Cacau,
    Thanks for your comment. I think you’ll find that I agree with a lot of what you say – our society is inherently broken, and I also have trouble understanding how so many people can manage to not comprehend that, or want to change it. I don’t understand how people can feel comfortable watching bad things happen without trying to change them, simply because those bad things are not happening to them.

    As for the Pine Barrens, they are slightly spooky, and there are plenty of birds as well. I grew up near them and went to camp each summer in the middle of the Barrens, and so I have a strong attachment to them.

    Best,
    Rachel

  10. Cacau,
    Thanks for your comment. I think you’ll find that I agree with a lot of what you say – our society is inherently broken, and I also have trouble understanding how so many people can manage to not comprehend that, or want to change it. I don’t understand how people can feel comfortable watching bad things happen without trying to change them, simply because those bad things are not happening to them.

    As for the Pine Barrens, they are slightly spooky, and there are plenty of birds as well. I grew up near them and went to camp each summer in the middle of the Barrens, and so I have a strong attachment to them.

    Best,
    Rachel

  11. Thanks for the reply! I’ve never been to them but the Pine Barrens must be one of the premier foreboding place names, in company with the Great Dismal Swamp, Desolation Canyon, Death Valley, etc.

    More related to this blog topic, I ran across these song lyrics a few days ago:

    (From the stage play South Pacific, music written by Rodgers & Hammerstein)

    YOU’VE GOT TO BE CAREFULLY TAUGHT

    You’ve got to be taught to hate and fear,
    You’ve got to be taught from year to year.
    It’s got to be drummed in your dear little ear.
    You’ve got to be carefully taught.

    You’ve got to be taught to be afraid
    Of people whose eyes are oddly made;
    And people whose skin is a different shade;
    You’ve got to be carefully taught.

    You’ve got to be taught before it’s too late,
    Before you are six or seven or eight;
    To hate all the people your relatives hate.
    You’ve got to be carefully taught,
    You’ve got to be carefully taught.

  12. Thanks for the reply! I’ve never been to them but the Pine Barrens must be one of the premier foreboding place names, in company with the Great Dismal Swamp, Desolation Canyon, Death Valley, etc.

    More related to this blog topic, I ran across these song lyrics a few days ago:

    (From the stage play South Pacific, music written by Rodgers & Hammerstein)

    YOU’VE GOT TO BE CAREFULLY TAUGHT

    You’ve got to be taught to hate and fear,
    You’ve got to be taught from year to year.
    It’s got to be drummed in your dear little ear.
    You’ve got to be carefully taught.

    You’ve got to be taught to be afraid
    Of people whose eyes are oddly made;
    And people whose skin is a different shade;
    You’ve got to be carefully taught.

    You’ve got to be taught before it’s too late,
    Before you are six or seven or eight;
    To hate all the people your relatives hate.
    You’ve got to be carefully taught,
    You’ve got to be carefully taught.

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